So this is the saying my friend told me a few days ago. This is not about me. It’s about my sister.
On July of last year, my sister married this man before she was off to go to her new assignment in Cuba. My husband and I urged her not to do that choice and that I did not support this marriage. She ignored my thoughts on her marriage and my opinion and notified us the day before that she was getting married.
My family’s history of marriage
My mom and dad got married when they only knew each other for less than a year but they never separated from each other.
Me and my husband got married after only knowing each other for five months. He was going to Texas and I followed him. We never separated from each other.
My husband’s parents got married less than a year of knowing each other too. They never separated from each other during the early parts of their marriage. Now they have been married for 35 years and can move apart from each other when it comes to trips and stuff. But they’ve learned to handle living apart.
Back to my sister
She has only known this man for less than six months and she had to go on an assignment to another country. He could not follow her. He also had a brain injury. How could she care for him and do her job? I’ve told her that long distance relationships are hard and she should think it through. She should have tried to do a long distance relationship as a boyfriend and girlfriend but they decided not to. Who made the choice? I’m not sure.
Well… She left her assignment early due to him. And they’ve been having problems since her return back. To be simple. She was expecting things to go to normal or so but it did not. They had communication problems and other problems. It just was bad.
Well… To be simple again. It was a military wedding and a military marriage. Short and quick.
So now that she is having problems. She is wallowing in her own self-pity trying to play the victim card and I am not going to receive it. Just as what my friend said. She made her bed now she has to lay on it. I will be there as some sort of support because she is family but she’s making irrational decisions.
She’s going to divorce the guy then she wants to still buy a house? Why? Is she jealous of my life? That I have a family, a house, and doing well? I don’t know.
So that’s been a little bug on my shoulder talking to me and I wanted to let it out. That’s all.. I am so glad I love my husband.